I am currently watching a family grieve as their matriarch passes. She is holding on with tenacious strength, though she is not conscious. Because of my spiritual beliefs, I am actually OK that she is passing. She was in tremendous pain, both physical and psychological. I believe that where she is going, she will have direct access to the healing and Light she needs so desperately. I want to celebrate her success and arrival to such a wonderful place. However, I am not. A family grieves, unable to move forward because she is hanging on so tightly. I am thrilled for her, but it is the people left behind that I am watching with an ache in my heart.
I have witnessed another pass; it is nothing new to me. But what is interesting, is the hurting that accompanies this current experience. My aunt, who was a devout believer in her religion, passed with relative ease. She was OK with leaving this earth and it showed. Because of her faith, her family healed easily. We moved on with confidence; with the belief that our beloved aunt is OK. Even if she is no longer in existence, which I don’t personally believe, her passing was peaceful. That made all the difference in the world. We cried, and went through our process of dealing with it, and moved on. We were able to move on because she moved on.
My mother in law, on the other hand, has no strong belief in the spiritual. I believe she is hanging on tightly out of fear. And this saddens me. Her loved ones cannot move forward because they are waiting, and waiting, and waiting for her to go. They have dealt with her downturn as far as they can, at this point. But they cannot move through their process while she hangs on. I can only imagine what they are going through.
The difference between these two women in my experiences with death made me realize that faith, even if it’s in something “incorrect” is still valuable and worth having. If only to help yourself and your family deal with the inevitability of death. And I don’t mean faith in God, per se. I mean faith in the positive, in Light. Belief that life is positive will suffice, I think. If you are in a good place, whether you are an atheist, agnostic, or worshipper of the tooth fairy even, you will be open to Light.
Which brings me to the inspiration of this blog post, I want to say to everyone in the world:
If you are afraid of believing in something that turns out to be wrong, I ask you, so what if you are wrong? Big flippin’ deal. If nothing else, your life is better with a positive outlook. And your death will be as well. Not to mention what your loved ones will go through when your time comes. That, alone, is worth the risk of saying “oops, I was mistaken.”
Wouldn’t you know, a day after I typed this blog (I saved it in my drafts folder), I got a tweet on Twitter, posted by Deepak_Chopra (or his people), and this is what it said:
Deepak_Chopra: An enormous amount of energy becomes available once we give up the need to be right.37 minutes ago from TweetDeck
I could not have said it better myself! Syncronicity, though it happens in abundance in my life because I let it, never ceases to amaze me.
So, dear world. I let it rest that that. And I hope every last soul in existence finds a positive outlook.
Peace and Blessings,
Rebkeh
